Jenny Holzer - Inflammatory Essays (1979-82)
Controlling your emotions doesn’t mean ignoring them. It means you recognize them and act on them when you deem it appropriate, not randomly and uncontrollably.
1. Know your emotions. There are a million different ways you can feel, but scientists have classified human emotions into a few basics that everyone can recognize: joy, acceptance, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, and anticipation. Jealousy, for example, is a manifestation of fear - fear that you’re not “as good” as something else, fear of being abandoned because you’re not “perfect” or “the best”.
2. Recognize that emotions don’t just appear mysteriously out of nowhere. Many times, we’re at the mercy of our emotions on a subconscious level. By recognizing your emotions on a conscious level, you’re better able to control them. It’s also good to recognize an emotion from the moment it materializes, as opposed to letting it build up and intensify. The last thing you want to do is ignore or repress your feelings, because if you’re reading this, you probably know that when you do that, they tend to get worse and erupt later. Ask yourself throughout the day: “How am I feeling right now?” If you can, keep a journal.
3. Notice what was going through your mind when the emotion appeared. Stop and analyze what you were thinking about, until you find what thought was causing that emotion. Your boss may not have made eye contact with you at lunch, for example; and without even being aware of it, the thought may have been in the back of your mind, “He’s getting ready to fire me!”
4. Write down the evidence which supports the thought that produced the emotion or against that thought. When you begin to think about it, you might realize that since nobody gets along well with this particular boss, he can’t afford to actually fire anyone, because the department is too short-staffed. For example, you may have let slip something that you should not have said which angered him, but which it is too late to retract.
5. Ask yourself, “What is another way to look at the situation that is more rational and more balanced than the way I was looking at it before?” Taking this new evidence into account, you may conclude that your job is safe, regardless of your boss’s petty annoyances, and you’re relieved of the emotion that was troubling you. If this doesn’t work, however, continue to the next step.
6. Consider your options. Now that you know what emotion you’re dealing with, think of at least two different ways you can respond. Your emotions control you when you assume there’s only one way to react, but you always have a choice. For example, if someone insults you, and you experience anger, your immediate response might be to insult them back. But no matter what the emotion, there are always at least two alternatives, and you can probably think of more: (i) Don’t react; do nothing. (ii) Do the opposite of what you would normally do.
7. Make a choice. When deciding what to do, it’s important to make sure it’s a conscious choice, not a reaction to another, competing emotion. For example, if someone insults you and you do nothing, is it your decision, or is it a response to your fear of confrontation? Here are some good reasons to act upon:
- Principles - Who do you want to be? What are your moral principles? What do you want the outcome of this situation to be? Ultimately, which is the decision you’d be most proud of? This is where religious guidance comes into play for many people.
- Logic - Which course of action is the most likely to result in the outcome you desire? For example, if you’re being confronted with a street fight, and you want to take the pacifist route, you can walk away—but, there’s a good chance that burly drunk will be insulted if you turn your back. Maybe it’s better to apologize and keep him talking until he calms down.
Lettering vs. Calligraphy
Today is the last day of this letter exhibition at Mota Italic, featuring the work of letterer, Martina Flor and calligrapher, Giuseppe Salerno.
Each Berlin based designer draws/writes a letter chosen each day. They explore the different possibilities of each glyph in a similar way to ‘letter battles’ such as Type Fight, Alphabout, AlphaBattle and the fun LetterPlayground.
The two technical approaches have produced some lovely work. It’s a shame I’ve missed the show, however you can see more of the work online.
• Accidentally close a tab? Ctrl+Shift+T reopens it.
• Bananas release dopamine, eat them when you’re sad.
• CTRL+SHIFT+ESC is the one handed version of CTRL+ALT+DEL
• Don’t brush your teeth hard, it makes them sensitive and removes enamel.
• Don’t like spiders? Put citronella oil on your walls and they will not go there.
• Drink one glass of water for every alcoholic drink you have, you’ll get drunk without getting a hangover.
• Get clear ice cubes by boiling water before freezing it
• Heal paper cuts and immediately stop the pain with chapstick.
• If you accidentally write on your dry erase board with a permanent marker, scribble over it with a dry eraser marker to remove it.
• If your shoes smell, put them in the freezer overnight, it will kill the bacteria.
• Make bug bites stop itching with a banana peel.
• Make a paper longer with 12-point text, but 14-point periods and commas.
• Need to get around a blocked website at work? Try replacing the http:// with https://
• Never send your resume as a word file (unless asked) Instead, print it to a pdf file, it’s much cleaner and professional looking.
• Pick a flavor of gum you don’t normally chew, and chew it while studying during a test.
• Place a piece of bread in a container with your homemade cookies and they will stay soft.
• Put a dry towel into a dryer with wet clothes, they will dry faster.
• Put toothpaste on a pimple and it will dry out.
• Practise fake smiling in the mirror every day before going to work/school, you’ll genuinely start to feel happier.
• Rub canola/olive oil on knives before cutting onions, you won’t cry, alternatively chew gum and you won’t either.
• Short on time with a wrinkled dress shirt? Hang it up in the bathroom to steam it flat.
• The night before, place things you don’t want to forget the next morning on top of your shoes.
• Use hydrogen peroxide to remove blood stains from clothing.
• When cleaning windows use newspapers or coffee filters instead of paper towels, they will not leave streaks.
• When microwaving bread products/pizza put a glass of water in with it, it will keep your bread for going spongy.
• When you move into a new place you’re renting, take pictures of any and all damage, then post them on facebook (privately if preferred) so you can use the reference date as proof you didn’t do it.
• When searching plane tickets online delete your cookies prior, prices go up when you visit a site multiple times. <sma
hey guys I made a helpful thing
Am I allowed to bring back my own post because I posted this before my follower explosion and I’ve seen a few people worrying about this since then so here you go
#01 - Seen It All \ Jake Bugg
I’ve seen it all now / I swear to god I’ve seen it all / nothing shocks me anymore after tonight
#02 - (Stranded On) The Wrong Beach \ Noel Gallagher’s High Flying Birds
pour me one for the road / it’s a long journey baby / where it’s gonna take me just depends on the weight of my load
#03 - Seven Nation Army \ The White Stripes
everyone knows about it / from the Queen of England to the hounds of hell (+ oooooooooooh Robin van Persie)
#04 - Chances \ Athlete
take all your chances while you can / you never know when they’ll pass you by
#05 - Keep Your Head Up \ Ben Howard
keep your mind set, keep your hair long / keep your head up, keep your heart strong / keep your mind set in your ways, keep your heart strong
#06 - Rocky Balboa \ Scouting for Girls
now I’m broken, hoping you were just joking / when you left you ripped me wide open // you can knock me down / but you can’t count me out
#07 - Rearrange \ Miles Kane
let it out, let it out, let it all out / you rearrange my mind
#08 - Radioactive \ Imagine Dragons
I raise my flags, don my clothes / it’s a revolution, I suppose / we’re painted red to fit right in
#09 - Hall of Fame \ The Script ft. will.i.am
dedicate yourself and you go find yourself / standing in the hall of fame / and the world’s gonna know your name / ‘cause you burn with the brightest flame / and the world’s gonna know your name / and you’ll be on the walls of the hall of fame
#10 - Fire \ Kasabian
I’m on fire / move on, you got to move on / you gotta get you real good / so you can shake on
#11 - Six Weeks \ Of Monsters and Men
let go, lay to rest / we fall, we fall, we fall / we fall to the ground
#12 - Troublemaker \ Olly Murs ft. Flo Rida
why does it feel so good but hurt so bad? / My mind keeps saying / ‘Run as fast as you can’ / I say, ‘I’m done,’ but then you pull me back / I swear you’re giving me a heart attack
#13 - You’re My Star \ Stereophonics
you’re my Sunday, make my Monday come alive / just like Tuesday, you’re a new day, wakes me up / Wednesday’s raining, Thursday’s yearning Friday nights / then it all ends at the weekend, you’re my star
#14 - Ho Hey \ The Lumineers
I belong with you / you belong with me / you’re my sweetheart
#15 - Not Nineteen Forever \ The Courteeners
you’re not nineteen forever, pull yourselves together / I know it seems strange but things they change
#16 - Month of May \ Arcade Fire
month of May, it’s a violent thing / in the city their hearts start to sing / well, some people singing sounds like screaming / used to doubt it but now I believe it
#17 - I Won’t Share You \ The Smiths
I won’t share you / with the drive and ambition / the zeal I feel, this is my time
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